Ten years ago I met my favorite person. My husband. We’ve been there for each other ever since. We got married three years ago. He is my best friend, soul mate, partner, lover, and so much more. He is everything to me.

Lately, I have been seeing posts about why your husband isn’t your best friend and I read them thinking “oh maybe this will be good!”, but then I am left puzzled. They say how their husband isn’t their best friend because he is more than that. That a best friend doesn’t know you like your husband does. Two of my women best friends, I grew up with. They know me. They know why I do and don’t like things and pretty much everything my husband knows, if not more, about my childhood. This doesn’t mean that they are better best friends than my husband.

They also say that their husband isn’t their soul mate, and that’s because they have worked hard for their relationship. Just because you believe your significant other is your soul mate doesn’t mean your relationship is easy. You still need to work for it. Relationships are hard no matter who you are.

As I said, my husband is everything. We know each other better than we know ourselves. We have had some rough times, just like anyone else. We met when we were seventeen and instead of growing apart we grew alongside each other, always encouraging and wanting to get to know each other more as we changed. There is still a long way to go and probably more challenges ahead, but we will never stop working together to make this work. We are not perfect and never will be. We fight, but we get over it. We put each other first before anything. We love and support each other through everything. He knows all my secrets, hopes, and dreams. The most fun we have is with each other, whether we go out and do something, or stay home and veg out on the couch watching Netflix. He has seen me at my worst and still loves me (how, I don’t know). We constantly challenge each other, and for that I am forever grateful.

Those are just some of the reasons why my husband is my best friend and soul mate, among other things, and I will never stop calling him either.