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Kristine McGinnis

A Dreamer in a Realist World

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April 2016

Being a cool kid (haha)

horse and rabbit mask couple of friends young  man and woman

Making friends or fitting in doesn’t have to be hard, does it?

For some reason, for some people it is and always will be. Whether you are outgoing or not, young or old, short or tall, liberal or conservative, introvert or extrovert, have kids or don’t, love cats or dogs, for some reason it is hard to findĀ  a place where you fit. No matter where you are at in life the “in crowd” will always elude you.

Does it have to be this way?

In my opinion, I don’t think it does, but who am I, an outsider, to say. When you are younger, and I mean 24 and younger, you think when you get older that it will be easier to make new friends and get along with people, but the truth is, it’s not. There may be some new friendships you develop along the way, but those are special and the exception. The majority of people meet the friends they will have for the rest of their life by their mid twenties. At this point most people are done with school, have found a job, and are really focusing on those few great friends they have known for a while or met in college or at their new job. By that time a lot of people are stuck in their ways or have too much going on to even care about bringing new people into their life.

The lucky people that find new friends are the outgoing ones. The ones that have that certain quality that you never seem to possess. The ones that are able to treat you as though they have known you for a long time, but just met you. The ones that everyone seems to get along with.

But what happens when you are the person that has anxiety or just has problems interacting with people? What happens when you want to be friends with the new people who seem great, but for some reason nothing you do works? And you try to interact more, but sometimes that ends up bad because the words you use come out wrong or the actions you take are taken the wrong way, so you end up just staying in your own little corner. You feel like you did something wrong. Maybe you just aren’t outgoing enough. Maybe you don’t talk enough. Maybe you are too nice. Maybe you just aren’t good at making friends.

Maybe it is you, but maybe it’s not. Sometimes it is going to be you. You aren’t open enough or you just don’t have the right personality. Other times it’s other people. Maybe they just don’t feel a connection to you like they do others and they don’t like trying to have superficial friendships. Maybe your personality doesn’t quite match. All these things are okay. You aren’t going to be friends with everyone.

But this all just sucks because no matter why the friendship doesn’t work or why it isn’t the way you feel it should be, you are still going to feel bad about it.

But keep your chin up because out there somewhere, whether you have found them already or not, you have one or a few friends that are the best ones that you will ever have. And in the end having that one friend or those few friends that will always be there with and for you is all that matters.

a man, a woman, a dog, and a “cat”

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***This is not aimed at any particular person(s). It is just a general statement***

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have two wonderful dogs, Molly and Willow(she acts like a cat). We recently bought a house and are loving it there with our fur-babies.

My husband and I are introverts and love spending our spare time home with our dogs. We like being home. We treat our dogs as if they are our kids. I know what you are thinking, “Oh, one of those” as you roll your eyes because “how could anyone love a dog as if they are a child”. Or the “having dogs is not like having children, so you wouldn’t know”. But what people don’t realize is that a dog is very similar to a toddler. The only big difference is that it is acceptable to leave a dog home alone. We, and many more people, love our animals as children. If the day ever comes when we have children, we will never love our dogs any less or treat them any different. They are our family. They are our first kids. We feed, shelter, play with, and clean them. We clean up after them. We love them and they love us. Our home is with our dogs and with each other. Our house is their house. They should never feel threatened in their house. That is where they should feel the most safe and protected, just like someone else’s kids should feel the same in their home.

So…

Dear Parent’s of human children who don’t think our dogs are our children,

Our dogs are our children. Please don’t expect me to treat someone else’s child better than my own. Don’t expect me to just let another child do whatever he/she wants to my child. Please do expect me to explain to you why it’s not right for you to let your child treat my child poorly. Don’t be upset when my child doesn’t want to play with your child, and don’t expect me to try and make my child play with your child. In their house and anywhere else they should be respected, and in someone else’s house they will respect the people there and their home.

My dogs love others and are so friendly. They give us unconditional love and we love them unconditionally right back, so please don’t ever expect us to treat them less than the children we see them as.

I will never show you or your children disrespect, so please do the same for us.

Human children and animal children should be treated fairly. Animal children should probably be treated better because if something is wrong or they are being hurt, they cannot tell someone the way a human child can.

So, please be kind and courteous and don’t act like your children are better than someone else’s just because they are different.

Sincerely,

A Dog Mom

 

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