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Kristine McGinnis

A Dreamer in a Realist World

Why my husband is my best friend and so much more.

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Ten years ago I met my favorite person. My husband. We’ve been there for each other ever since. We got married three years ago. He is my best friend, soul mate, partner, lover, and so much more. He is everything to me.

Lately, I have been seeing posts about why your husband isn’t your best friend and I read them thinking “oh maybe this will be good!”, but then I am left puzzled. They say how their husband isn’t their best friend because he is more than that. That a best friend doesn’t know you like your husband does. Two of my women best friends, I grew up with. They know me. They know why I do and don’t like things and pretty much everything my husband knows, if not more, about my childhood. This doesn’t mean that they are better best friends than my husband.

They also say that their husband isn’t their soul mate, and that’s because they have worked hard for their relationship. Just because you believe your significant other is your soul mate doesn’t mean your relationship is easy. You still need to work for it. Relationships are hard no matter who you are.

As I said, my husband is everything. We know each other better than we know ourselves. We have had some rough times, just like anyone else. We met when we were seventeen and instead of growing apart we grew alongside each other, always encouraging and wanting to get to know each other more as we changed. There is still a long way to go and probably more challenges ahead, but we will never stop working together to make this work. We are not perfect and never will be. We fight, but we get over it. We put each other first before anything. We love and support each other through everything. He knows all my secrets, hopes, and dreams. The most fun we have is with each other, whether we go out and do something, or stay home and veg out on the couch watching Netflix. He has seen me at my worst and still loves me (how, I don’t know). We constantly challenge each other, and for that I am forever grateful.

Those are just some of the reasons why my husband is my best friend and soul mate, among other things, and I will never stop calling him either.

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Being a cool kid (haha)

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Making friends or fitting in doesn’t have to be hard, does it?

For some reason, for some people it is and always will be. Whether you are outgoing or not, young or old, short or tall, liberal or conservative, introvert or extrovert, have kids or don’t, love cats or dogs, for some reason it is hard to find  a place where you fit. No matter where you are at in life the “in crowd” will always elude you.

Does it have to be this way?

In my opinion, I don’t think it does, but who am I, an outsider, to say. When you are younger, and I mean 24 and younger, you think when you get older that it will be easier to make new friends and get along with people, but the truth is, it’s not. There may be some new friendships you develop along the way, but those are special and the exception. The majority of people meet the friends they will have for the rest of their life by their mid twenties. At this point most people are done with school, have found a job, and are really focusing on those few great friends they have known for a while or met in college or at their new job. By that time a lot of people are stuck in their ways or have too much going on to even care about bringing new people into their life.

The lucky people that find new friends are the outgoing ones. The ones that have that certain quality that you never seem to possess. The ones that are able to treat you as though they have known you for a long time, but just met you. The ones that everyone seems to get along with.

But what happens when you are the person that has anxiety or just has problems interacting with people? What happens when you want to be friends with the new people who seem great, but for some reason nothing you do works? And you try to interact more, but sometimes that ends up bad because the words you use come out wrong or the actions you take are taken the wrong way, so you end up just staying in your own little corner. You feel like you did something wrong. Maybe you just aren’t outgoing enough. Maybe you don’t talk enough. Maybe you are too nice. Maybe you just aren’t good at making friends.

Maybe it is you, but maybe it’s not. Sometimes it is going to be you. You aren’t open enough or you just don’t have the right personality. Other times it’s other people. Maybe they just don’t feel a connection to you like they do others and they don’t like trying to have superficial friendships. Maybe your personality doesn’t quite match. All these things are okay. You aren’t going to be friends with everyone.

But this all just sucks because no matter why the friendship doesn’t work or why it isn’t the way you feel it should be, you are still going to feel bad about it.

But keep your chin up because out there somewhere, whether you have found them already or not, you have one or a few friends that are the best ones that you will ever have. And in the end having that one friend or those few friends that will always be there with and for you is all that matters.

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***This is not aimed at any particular person(s). It is just a general statement***

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have two wonderful dogs, Molly and Willow(she acts like a cat). We recently bought a house and are loving it there with our fur-babies.

My husband and I are introverts and love spending our spare time home with our dogs. We like being home. We treat our dogs as if they are our kids. I know what you are thinking, “Oh, one of those” as you roll your eyes because “how could anyone love a dog as if they are a child”. Or the “having dogs is not like having children, so you wouldn’t know”. But what people don’t realize is that a dog is very similar to a toddler. The only big difference is that it is acceptable to leave a dog home alone. We, and many more people, love our animals as children. If the day ever comes when we have children, we will never love our dogs any less or treat them any different. They are our family. They are our first kids. We feed, shelter, play with, and clean them. We clean up after them. We love them and they love us. Our home is with our dogs and with each other. Our house is their house. They should never feel threatened in their house. That is where they should feel the most safe and protected, just like someone else’s kids should feel the same in their home.

So…

Dear Parent’s of human children who don’t think our dogs are our children,

Our dogs are our children. Please don’t expect me to treat someone else’s child better than my own. Don’t expect me to just let another child do whatever he/she wants to my child. Please do expect me to explain to you why it’s not right for you to let your child treat my child poorly. Don’t be upset when my child doesn’t want to play with your child, and don’t expect me to try and make my child play with your child. In their house and anywhere else they should be respected, and in someone else’s house they will respect the people there and their home.

My dogs love others and are so friendly. They give us unconditional love and we love them unconditionally right back, so please don’t ever expect us to treat them less than the children we see them as.

I will never show you or your children disrespect, so please do the same for us.

Human children and animal children should be treated fairly. Animal children should probably be treated better because if something is wrong or they are being hurt, they cannot tell someone the way a human child can.

So, please be kind and courteous and don’t act like your children are better than someone else’s just because they are different.

Sincerely,

A Dog Mom

 

Michelle Horst Author Spotlight!

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Michelle Horst is thirty seven years old and is from South Africa.
She’s been in love with reading from an early age. She has a passion for all things books, but she has an ultimate soft spot for nature and animals.
She first tried her hand at writing in early 2009 and as the first words started to form into a book, she knew she was hooked. Dreams spilled onto pages, and that was the beginning of a wonderful journey.
One filled with joy. One filled with passion and heart stopping moments.
But most of all, it’s filled with such pride and peace as a story comes to life, and characters fill your life, living in the very walls of your mind, living in the minds of your readers. There is nothing as satisfying as that.

Thank you for each and every story you share with me.

Michelle 😉

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A TOUCH OF LUST

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Mila
The way of the commune is the only way I know. Born into sin, I have to repent daily.
If we follow the laws of the Brothers, our sins will be forgiven, and they will take us with them to The Promised Land. All I have been taught is that I’m bad, shameful and a whore.
But, in the deepest part of my heart I can’t help but wonder about life. Is the way of The Order really the only way?
I listen to the teachings. I watch my sisters as they dutifully do what they’re told.
With every passing day I can feel my faith slipping away. How can I believe in something that feels so wrong? I feel like an outsider.
I feel like I don’t belong anywhere until I meet Liam. The first man to show me what love is turns out to be just like the rest of them.
I’m done putting my faith in men. I’ll save myself.

Liam
Cults – I have this intense hunger for revenge against them.
Because of them, my sister took her own life.
Instead of getting my revenge, I get Mila. She changes things. But when I begin to unravel the secrets of her past that revenge comes back. I can’t forgive her for belonging to a cult. I blame her.
There’s only one problem, somehow that love I felt for her is coming back and my hate is turning to lust.
In the end I’m the one who needs saving.

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PROTECTOR

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I’ve always thought of myself as a pretty happy-go-lucky kind of person. I wanted to save the world, or at least leave my stamp behind. In my own naïve way I thought I could bribe karma but life has a way of teaching us lessons.

I never knew how selfish I was until my life was ripped away from me.

Taken.
I’m forced to watch as they torture and kill my family … and I know I’m next.
I hear their screams.
I watch them die.
It’s the worst kind of torture

Then he comes. He made a promise to my brother. It’s the only thing keeping him bound to me.

A promise to protect me.

I should set him free of the promise … but I don’t. He’s my shield against karma. He’s my protector.

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PREDATOR

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Genre: Romantic Suspense

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All my life I’ve been hiding, until there is no corner on this god-forsaken earth left for me to hide. I have to pay for the sins of my father. No one with Ellison blood in their veins is allowed to live, and I am the last of my bloodline.
I am kept in a container waiting for my death sentence to be carried out, when he comes. He is only known as ‘Predator’. No one knows who he works for, only that he leaves no one alive.

His every breath is filled with the last gasp of his dying prey.

But for some reason he doesn’t kill me.

I don’t know which is worse, the death sentence hanging over my head, or being at his mercy.

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SAVED BY HER

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Genre: Standalone Dark Romance

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Jack

I F**K.
That’s all I do, all I’m good for.
People pay thousands just to have a taste of me.
It’s the only life I’ve ever known.
…until her.

River

I work.
That’s all I do, it’s my safe zone.
I get paid well because I’m good at my job.
It’s the only place I feel in control.
…until him.

Authors Note and WARNING: Monster is a work of fiction intended for adult readers above 18. It contains dark and sensitive subject matter that may make readers uncomfortable.
Contains explicit language and descriptions of sexual situations.

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SAVED BY HIM

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Sophia
I’m only good for sex.
That’s what I’ve been trained for my whole life.
I’m a puppet.
I only know how to be your perfect fantasy.
It’s the only life I’ve ever known.
…until him.

Adam
I protect.
That’s all I know.
I’m the best at my job.
Life is fucked up, that’s my reality.
…until her.


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DARK BOUNDARIES

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He stole me.
He broke me.
I’m being auctioned for Fifty thousand dollars.
Now, I don’t belong to anyone but strangely enough I wanted to belong to him.
It’s his eyes … I lost myself in them

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He’s my cousin and I love to hate him.
He bullies me.
He tries to break me every chance he gets
I remind him constantly that he’s adopted. It’s the only weapon I have against him.

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TWISTED BOUNDARIES

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I live a life of darkness.

They sold my brother for money.
I was kept to make money for them.

I thought I escaped it all, but the monster is back.
I’m not worth anything to him anymore, so now he’s going after my brother.

There are only two things I fear; the darkness and water.
I’m not scared of pain.
I’m not scared of death.

I’m prepared to die and to make sure that monster goes with me.

Authors Note and WARNING: Twisted Boundaries is a work of fiction intended for adult readers above 18. It contains dark and sensitive subject matter that may make readers uncomfortable.
Contains explicit language and descriptions of sexual situations.

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WAKE ME UP

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Twenty-two-year old Emma runs from a devastating life. Wanting to escape her demons with the help of her crazy friend Chloe, she travels halfway across the world.
Alone, Emma must make a fresh start in the small town of Chapel Hill, North Carolina. She doesn’t let anyone near her, until Aiden.
Aiden gives her a glimpse of what love really is like, but then their little world is shattered when their lives collide and Emma gets caught in the middle.
Will Aiden cross an ocean for Emma?
(This is a stand-alone novel told from dual POV’s (both Emma (British) and Aiden (American) in The Tainted Ink Series)

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WYATT

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All my life I’ve been living in the shadows.
First it was in the shadows of my brother and sister, the wonder twins. Then it was in the shadow of Laurie’s death.
No matter what I do in life, Aiden’s success will always overshadow mine.
I’ll never be Aiden.

The opportunity of being my own person comes in the form of Scarlett Grayson. She’s the female version of me. I don’t know what I’m letting myself in for. I just know it’s time for me to step out of the shadows.

Authors Note and WARNING: Wyatt is a work of fiction intended for adult readers above 18. It contains dark and sensitive subject matter that may make readers uncomfortable.
Contains explicit language and descriptions of sexual situations.

*** Standalone *** (If you want more background on Wyatt’s family please read Wake Me Up first)

This book is not for everyone. Please only read it if you can handle the subject matter and are able to keep an open mind whilst reading. If you want a perfect love story, this is not it.

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FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND

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He is all I think and dream about.
My teenage heart beats only for him.
Until he becomes part of my worst nightmare…
Now, I avoid him.
I ban every thought of him.

(This is a Stand Alone novel. It is written from both Lacey and Seth’s point of view. It has a HEA!)
WARNING: This book has violence, sexual scenes and language in it. It is recommended for 18+ only.
If you suffer from any triggers, do not read this book.

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